This was the question asked of me today during a phone call with a friend. She called because she remembered hearing, during our "Loving Well" session of WIW last year, that sometimes God is using a "testy" person in your life to change something with you. (I'm cracking up just remembering the "testy" description!)
Her question was, how do you discern if that is the case, that something in you needs changing, especially when testy is someone who lives with you, and you are called to love them. At some point can she stop looking inward? Does she need to simply accept that testy is testy and that is how it's going to be?
hmmmm.
I'm thinking that, in all situations it would be wiser for us to look at ourselves first instead of blaming or finger pointing. But it is a good question! I think my friend's conclusion was that she would look to God for love and the support she needs when she wasn't getting it from her testy. Smart woman.
Two seconds after I hung up I wished that I had said to her PRAY FOR IT PRAY FOR IT PRAY FOR IT pray over the situation and never give up hope.
What would you all have said? Don't be shy here...I want to hear what all my sisters in the Word have said, and be free flowing with scripture support please!
Father in heaven we know that you use everything in our lives for your glory. We know that you are in control, and your plan is The One and Only Plan, even when we can't see the why of everything that is going on in our lives. You know the hurt that comes with feeling rejected and unloved, I ask you Father to soften the heart of the "testy" in my friend's life, and fill her heart with the love and acceptance that she needs when she needs it.
Her question was, how do you discern if that is the case, that something in you needs changing, especially when testy is someone who lives with you, and you are called to love them. At some point can she stop looking inward? Does she need to simply accept that testy is testy and that is how it's going to be?
hmmmm.
I'm thinking that, in all situations it would be wiser for us to look at ourselves first instead of blaming or finger pointing. But it is a good question! I think my friend's conclusion was that she would look to God for love and the support she needs when she wasn't getting it from her testy. Smart woman.
Two seconds after I hung up I wished that I had said to her PRAY FOR IT PRAY FOR IT PRAY FOR IT pray over the situation and never give up hope.
What would you all have said? Don't be shy here...I want to hear what all my sisters in the Word have said, and be free flowing with scripture support please!
Father in heaven we know that you use everything in our lives for your glory. We know that you are in control, and your plan is The One and Only Plan, even when we can't see the why of everything that is going on in our lives. You know the hurt that comes with feeling rejected and unloved, I ask you Father to soften the heart of the "testy" in my friend's life, and fill her heart with the love and acceptance that she needs when she needs it.
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I held off to see if anyone else would comment.....nothing yet so I guess I will be the first and HOPEFULLY not the last.
This issue reminds me of a story I heard last week....a middle aged daughter came to a friend of mine and told her mother that if she knew what she was marrying way back twenty years ago, she may have hesitated. Her mother wisely answered that there probably isn't a woman in the world that hasn't felt the same way at some point in her life. I don't know that Testy is a husband in this situation but if I read between the lines correctly, I would think it is. But regardless who it is....God does call us to be obedient to Him...To reason out what God is driving at in our lives is futile. Our thoughts and reasoning can be so askew. He just wants us to trust Him with that person and with our relationship with that person. Your advice to "pray about it" is the only advice there can be. In the mean time we can only say what should be said for a life time..."Please be patient, God isn't finished with me yet". We are His work in progress for the entire journey.
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